Although sometimes misunderstood as attention seeking, those who self-harm usually do so as a way to cope with deep emotions, distress or traumatic experiences. It can sometimes be a way to try and show how they are feeling; a ‘cry for help’ if they are unable to voice this. It can be a way to relieve unbearable tension, take control of their life and to handle scary emotions, moods, and feelings.
People who self-harm may feel self-hatred and have very low self-esteem. They may also feel sad, anxious, lonely, guilty, numb, disconnected, empty, hopeless, unworthy or trapped. Sometimes the act of self-harming temporarily provides relief from these feelings.
Bullying can be a major cause of self-harming, with others including worrying about school and college work, difficulty with friends or family, money worries, issues around coming to terms with sexuality, alcohol or drug misuse, living up to cultural expectations, traumatic experiences, and bereavement or miscarriage.
We have support available here. If you are feeling suicidal or are in a potentially dangerous situation, we strongly advise you to speak to an adult or call 999.
Reach out to a dedicated self-harm organisation like selfharmUK (https://www.selfharm.co.uk)
To speak to someone at times of crisis:
In the UK – call The Samaritans on 116 123, they are there 24 hours a day, every day.
In the USA – call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline on 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
